Tell Me

At work. Running behind. Have this rant going through my head. Needed to just get it out. Oh the beauty of a personal blog. Its like yelling at someone without that whole awkward confrontation factor.

So since the Kubnick family has embarked upon this international adoption journey, we have started noticing several common trends.

The first is the inability of people to just be excited for us without adding their opinion. It goes something like this...."oh that's so nice that you're adopting from Ukraine. Let me tell you what I think....."  No thanks.

The second is the inability of people to keep their mouths shut. Everyone is entitled to an opinion. Obviously this is a decision that was not made hastily and your 20 minute dissertation on why you don't believe in adoption isn't going to end up with us saying "you're right! I never looked at it that way! Let's not adopt!".

And the third is similar to the second. Those people that agree with the idea of adoption, just not OUR adoption.  Here's how that conversation goes.....

"Yes, we are adopting from Ukraine."
"I don't understand why people adopt internationally when there are hundreds of thousands of orphans right here in the united states! What's wrong with the kids here? I mean, there's a crisis right here on the homefront and all you people are running off to rescue another country's problem!"
"I'm sorry that you disagree. We feel God is leading us to Ukraine."

That last part, that's what I say. But here's what I WANT to say :)

Oh really? Do you want to tell me all about your domestic adoption journey? Do you want to show me the spreadsheet that you developed to break down the pro's and con's of international vs. domestic adoption? Oh wait, what? You've never adopted a child before? Then keep your pie hole shut! An orphan is an orphan regardless of their ethnicity or geographic location and its attitudes like yours that have assisted in making the worlds orphan crisis run 147 million strong.   When God decided to wake you up this morning I'm pretty sure that His justification wasn't "well the numbers in the US are balancing out today so let me save this one, one more time".  We go where we feel led. Without God rescuing us, and adopting us into His family, this process would have never been a consideration for our family. So when He says go, we go. We believe in His vision for a world that loves the same way that He does, without barriers that separate us or make us feel less responsible for people in need. The crisis remains the same. There are children without homes. Until you decide that you aren't too good to open your home to one, or two or three, don't decide that you're going to rain on our parade by shoving your small minded opinions down our throats.  We don't care what you have to say. Would you like to buy a bracelet to help us fund raise? 

Rant. Over.  :)